Knowing your love, who will be your future spouse, all his or her past love history may be a double-edged sword while some find we should tell our love our past love history honestly versus some allege that such a deed is superfluous, unwise, or even foolish, denoting that he or she will be uncomfortable, angry, or even hurt after knowing your past love history. But most of the time, it is the one who gets uncomfortable, angry, or even hurt who asks the question and is desperate for an answer. Therefore, when you have the motivation to ask the above question, be psychologically well-prepared and be responsible for your deed afterward.

True and great love can survive knowing the brutal truth of anything, that is the essence of love. Being mature enough to know and accept the other party’s love history including anything bad, ugly, or horrible within it is to testify whether true love is happening. Having the courage and liberal mind to accept and embrace one’s past love history including everything is the way to not only physically own this person but also mentally and spiritually connect with him or her. If you don’t have this special kind of streak, you can only be able to own his or her body but not his or her mind and spirit, and you will also be seen as kind of elusive and escaping dare not face the truth. 

Nevertheless, the whole process of knowing one’s love history is not just listening and accepting but also pledging that you won’t make use of such an episode to attack him or her when quarrels or problems arise in the future. It is the most serious pledge in your marriage – a pledge so serious that it is even bigger than that of the marriage itself.