Many couples used to ask with moaning why marriage is so hard and complicated and struggle for an answer every day in their marriage life path. They ask because they think it is ridiculous when before marriage their relationships are not that complicated but until they are in a marriage. I tell you it is normal, it is the development of stages of relationships, only it appears more obvious and blatant in couples.

A couple’s relationship becomes complicated has its reasons. It is a matter of feeling. A couple’s relationship differs from other kinds of relationships, for there is one thing very unique and crucial within a couple that doesn’t exist in others. That is, a couple has to make love. Normally, only a couple has to make love on their bed sharing the most intimate feeling physically, some say spiritually as well, in their lives. Love making is a very special thing, it is the most important thing within a couple despite every time it only takes them half an hour or less. If a couple cannot make love to each other, they will feel like strangers and unable to go on.

Once a couple enters into a marriage; they will gradually establish more layers in their relationship unlike before they were. These several layers of relationship do make a marriage complicated unlike before they were having only one layer of relationship that could go simple. Say, a husband may later become a father, and a wife may later become a mother, so having them establish more relationships, and their respective family members also will collaborate to make more relationships with them in their marriage.

One layer of a relationship does let a pair of lovers make love easily, simply, and more intimately; however, once they are married, they cannot do so like before they did. The situation will become kind of hard or embarrassing when they have to get along every day with each other facing brutal realities and at night being a romantic couple making love on the bed with intimacy. When some couples find it awkward to do so, they gradually give up making love. However, doing so will only increase one more layer on their relationships, that is strangers.

To reduce the difficulty that you may find in making love with your significant half, there are hints for reference you may find useful. First, try not to be too serious with him or her when handling daily trivia or problems; play more with each other with laughter and joy evincing more childlike innocence; see marriage as a joyous and blessing thing and treat it with respect and happiness. Secondly, never quarrel in a hawkish way to break his or her heart, and while quarreling, never address it to people but matter in a rational and tender way with a soft voice and love, for you are a couple, not foes or enemies. At last, no matter how hard you would find making love with him or her, do it regularly and happily, and you will eventually find the effect of it will bear fruit as an amazing result. Marriage is inevitably a multi-layer relationship having a couple enjoy the process of establishing them.