Love - Relationships - Marriage

Marriage or Cohabitation

I don’t encourage lovers to cohabit, cohabitation only has us learn it is an improper and unworkable way to examine whether the one you love suits you or not. Moreover, it will honestly and brutally further reveal not a few flip sides of it that lovers must encounter despite never expecting them until they are diving into such a journey. Cohabitation has ruined not a few true and innocent lovers as a culmination.
Why would a pair of lovers, in the first place, choose to cohabit rather than decide to go into marriage with a vow? Most of the time, the answer is they want to see if they can get along with each other happily and effectively, able to stand the test of time. Deplorably, more often than not, cohabitation takes delight in proving lovers wrong or bad in many ways leading them to break up. When two people cohabit, they would not take each other as seriously as they are husband and wife, thinking cohabitation is just an experiment, and they can anytime end it once they find fault with each other. When both have such a plan at the very outset, they will only easily give up once they encounter difficulty, and, many times, just boredom and familiarity can serve as such difficulty, plunging them into an abyss of suffocation.
Marriage is different, first, it is not an experiment that you think you can do it again and again to find results. Marriage is a commitment having a couple place gritty resolve to stay with each other with a vow. Such a pledge in a vow is the most touching thing in your life when you, on your wedding day, solemnly declare it to him or her with joy and tears, happily telling the world with pride and confidence that you have decided to stay with this person forever. It is the holy declaration ever in your life.
Unlike cohabitation granting return, a husband and wife would see their marriage as a no-return path, and they would only do their best in their married life to reach this goal. You must argue that if so, why do many married couple divorce? Yeah, it is undeniable to admit the fact that there are not a few divorce cases; however, it is totally a different thing compared with the breakup of cohabitation because a divorced couple has once been sincerely and earnestly in marriage with a vow, and such a vow of marriage requires them a very important thing they both have to own, it is their respect and faith in each other with love – that – they take each other the most serious and pledging with a heart to stay with each other forever in their lives. It is the confirmation a couple makes in a marriage that lovers in cohabitation will not have; instead, a pair of cohabiting lovers will have the contrary, that is they can break up anytime easily without feeling irresponsible or bad.
See which one will have meaning in your life?

Judy Cheng

Hello friends, I am from Hong Kong, living there and having decent education there. I am a mother of two sons and I work as a veteran counselor at a fully fledgling marital introduction company. I like to share with people some tougher experiences in the area of human relationships, marriage in particular. I find human nature is a mixed blessing. While we are bestowed upon enjoying the advantages of it, we can also flee the disadvantages of it. How? I will tell you in my books and blogs.
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