Understandably, one main reason we go learn more and earn more is we want to have more people who will admire us, respect us, or even envy us. And most importantly, we think being so smart, wealthy, and intelligent a person, we must have a man or a woman who will love us and see us as their ideal partner. These seem the main reason we are eager to be rich, and capable and have us painstakingly pursue them with our immense hard work and giving. However; the outcome usually does the contrary. One day, all of a sudden, you will find the richer we become, the fewer friends we will have who will truly admire us or even like us; the more capable we are, the harder we can find a man or a woman who will truly love us. Why?

Does anyone know the reason why? Some may attribute the reason to human nature, indicating that no one wants others to be richer, smarter, more capable, or more intelligent than us. That’s why we don’t like them. Yeah, it may serve some of the reasons for the answer; however, I have found some other factors that may serve the more real and deeper reasons of it that have us pondering.

When we spend a lot of time learning and wanting to become capable people, our lives will stand the possibility of being doomed with time. Time is the most equal thing in our lives, it doesn’t take sides with anyone but be indiscriminative towards everyone by distributing us every day twenty-four hours. When a person employs most of his twenty-four hours in learning without taking time out in caring for the people around him, he will have less and less time getting along with people talking about love and life. And when his mind is full of the stuff he learns, even when he has time to talk, what comes out of his mouth is mostly academic, and automatically, he will lose the ability to be with people with empathy, for what he has in his mind is all information and knowledge which doesn’t need him to process feelings, emotion, not to mention love when he talks about them.

When a person has to spend a lot of time making money, his head will be full of one schedule after another, one meeting after another, etc., and he will not have leisure time to talk about love or think about life. And when his money grows and grows, he will become a man who is pathetically bound by the stuff relating to money in his head, what he every day does is struggle to survive the busy work in front of him. His temper will unwittingly change to rude, brash, or elusive. Being that, how could he have time and mood to court a woman when he loses the passion, purity, and patience that a woman immensely needs of a man when she is courted? The result is he hardly finds true love.

Day by day, the above-mentioned people will only become increasingly far away from normal life or even go to the extreme. What they originally thought they would be more likable or admirable when they learn more or earn more will come to naught, for he failed to realize that what we want to be with is the kind of people who is empathetic, able to connect with us with feeling, love, and emotion with quality time.

Whatever we want to be with money or knowledge we gain, bear in mind that we have to do it suitably by striking a proper balance in our lives. Never should we forget we are born to love; never go to the extreme to learn or earn when nowadays we are living in an era of explosive knowledge pushing us to learn, learn, and learn in addition to an unchangeable season of the world of materialism seducing us to earn, earn and earn. Spend enough time talking to your loved ones with empathy about love, life, marriage, and relationships instead of the kind of informative stuff involving money, business, knowledge, politics, or academics. Love and relationships are no less powerful and essential than wealth and knowledge in the human universe that drives us to prosperity and an authentic better world.