If love is so good, why does it hurt? I have even heard many ask if love is good, why do we have to suffer failures of it to grow strong to prepare for the next possible failure? Is such a logic contradictory? No, it isn’t, and I will explain it to you.

We will naturally grow stronger because the experience of being hurt has nothing to do with love. Love itself is good, I promise, it hurts because it has been manipulated by people. Say, we will many times wittingly or unwittingly choose a wrong or even bad person to love, it would definitely lead to hurt as a result. Women, in particular, it is well known that they won’t love a man who is not bad. It proves amply that women don’t like boring men. They find good men are usually some kind of boring men, fearing such men would ruin their lives. It can also explain why men tend to be bad even if they are not, for they want to attract women. And, why women are mostly the victims of love? It is because they take delight in choosing bad guys to love finding them appealing, challenging, and exciting.

Another possible factor is when the right person appears at the wrong time, it also leads to consequences of hurt. Say, women would invariably fall in love with married men. Women like challenges, having a married man to love her can mean a lot to her life, it is vanity.

More importantly, some would evilly take advantage of the goodness of love to cheat or harm others in many different ways, mainly they cheat their kind hearts which are full of love and purity. In fact, there are a variety of reasons to render love hurt instead of many would only know to shift the blame to love moaning it is not good.

However; we will grow with wisdom to strengthen our ability to go on loving after gaining experiences in the area of love. With experiences gained, we will grow strong and more knowledgeable about love. Fear not being hurt and you will finally find your significant half sharing with you your dreams, casting with you his or her lot to make your life more meaningful and alive. When we know to love right with decency and loyalty, love doesn’t hurt.