‘Marry in haste, repent at leisure’ does teach us a thing or two about marriage and life. When marriage appears to be the ultimate best thing we have to do in life, there is a need for us to contemplate the best age to get married so that we will have a happy and effective marriage leading our life to success and happiness. Although it all depends; I want you to be aware of some criteria that we must observe before marriage.

Marriage is no kidding thing, it requires a couple’s maturity in mentality as well as the ability in finance to make it concrete, steady, and strong. I would like to suggest females get married around thirty (in-between 28 and 32) while men do so in their mid-thirties to forty, say 35 to 40. I promise we will have enough time in our married path even if we marry further late, there is no point in hastening to go into marriage when you are not prepared enough.

When a couple reaches the stage of maturity in life, they are more capable of handling the issues of marriage which require a lot of maturity in mentality. A mature married couple is vastly different from an immature one when facing the same problem or question and generating different results. In addition, a planned marriage with sustainable finance will underscore a couple’s responsibility in helping each other go through the problems or contingencies in finance that may unexpectedly occur. A happy and workable marriage will not ruin the effort a couple sweetly made in their courting time. I have heard many who have made a vigorous effort in courting time but failed in their marriage due to financial problems or struggles. It is a pity! Furthermore, having a longer time in the courting period can lead to a deeper understanding of a couple lest they should know each other’s real character late finding out they are not compatible in many areas.

If we get married at a mature age, we will stand a possible chance of having a better marriage without us going through some kind of painful experiences that will possibly be arisen from a marriage of a fledgling couple. As though it is good to have life experiences, not everyone can see painful or bad experiences in the right and positive way and move forward, some will never; some need to take a long time or even a whole life to make it. I find myself lucky to have witnessed many, in my job, who will take bad experiences as lessons and learn and be courageous enough to move on to find a partner for their new chapter in life. Inspiring enough!

However; I don’t object to all the earlier marriages only if the couple finds they can handle bad experiences correctly and positively, saying so doesn’t mean I imply that all the earlier marriages will result badly, the results consist in many different circumstances in different cases. As though different as they may be, I have to point out two common grounds between them that I find important – immaturity and inexperience, and I have to emphasize that these two points are extremely detrimental to marriage being a failed marriage’s main culprit. If you want to marry earlier, you need to take them into consideration and ask yourself if you would prefer to marry later with more life experiences and being mature enough to handle the issues marriage brings or, if you can take a failed marriage in your life and learn and move on.

Nevertheless, we cannot but admit that marrying young is indeed a lot purer, simpler, more genuine, and far less realistic than marrying old. Life will be more beautiful with a marriage that is embraced in a couple’s youth because of the preciousness of the youth as well as the genuineness of the couple. It can mean their youth is full and dynamic making it more precious, and mainly they have not wasted their youth a bit. Think about how many of us have wasted our youth doing nothing in particular but just working and idling. Memories are the most subtle thing rendering our lives the most meaningful, and if your earlier marriage has become a memory, don’t be sad because your life has already been exceptionally meaningful and you should be proud of it. Not everyone will have a chapter of marriage in their youth, it is a precious thing in life because all the couples who marry earlier are to marry true love.

At last, I encourage couples who want to get married earlier or have already done so to do their very best to achieve their goal of having a successful, happy, and blissful marriage. When you have the best heart to do so, a strong belief will come out leading the impossible to possible, amazingly so.