I have been working in a martial introduction company for years, seldom would I have heard my female clients come to me say she is looking for a man to love; instead, she would invariably say ‘I am to find a man who will love me and care me’. Some even would add that it doesn’t matter if she likes this man or not, implying that they are too weak and inferior to talk about love, moaning love is too extravagant a thing for women. Hearing this in my job from time to time, I can see not a few women would love to find themselves more than fragile and need love from men; however, I can say to all the women that you are strong and capable enough of having a man to love on your own terms.

You may never know having a person to love is a lot more amazing than wanting a person who would love you. When you love a person, he or she must have something very special or appealing that captivates you, just this can make you live your life differently. And when you decide to love this person, you can do a lot in an active way, you don’t have to sit and wait, you can do what you want to love him or her on your very own. Doing so requires you to input immense energy and creativeness, and owing to this stuff, it will make you an energetic and creative person making you every day wake up with a very good reason to live. On the contrary, if you want a person to love you, what you can do is to wait, and it is too passive a way to be a happy person. What’s worse, you would finally come to learn that your happiness is in the grasp of this person’s hand.

And really from my very own experiences, I enjoy having a person to love more than being loved by a person. My feeling is when I love a person, I could feel a lot happier with my decision made on loving him, what I could feel is I have become more real and a lot more active than ever. It is absolutely enjoyable.

Take my advice, women in particular, from today on, make it your pride to find a person to love, hold strong a belief that women are definitely capable enough of taking the initiative to love a man but not just sit and wait for them to love you. We have long been living in an era of NO EXCUSE, there is not a person whom we cannot successfully find to love only if we have that resolution with heart and love.