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Don’t sleep in different bedrooms

Whether it is a rumor or not, there is an untenable saying that circulates among many a married couple alleging that when an unhappy or aging married couple can have their separate bedrooms to sleep in, they can escape from divorcing. With that, they legitimately allow themselves to sleep in different bedrooms instead of the same one which has testified to much of their marriage in substance. The worst is, such an idea has expanded to not a few married couples who are not unhappy or aging but sometimes having arguments, or they just find time has taken the bloom off their marriage’s sweetness or freshness feeling bored with each other. It is a pity!
As a matter of fact, once a married couple sleep in different bedrooms, such a marriage within them is dead, only they just don’t want to experience divorcing, fearing they cannot face such a failure in their lives, so they find ways to escape from it, thinking different bedrooms may work.
Other than some kinds of medical reasons or some other situations having a married couple, who are happy with each other, have their separate bedrooms, the rest of the couples who choose to sleep in different bedrooms have to earnestly find out their questions and go solve them lest the problems between them should become Gordian knot.
With different bedrooms to sleep in, the love between such a couple will only decrease to zero because both of them will know they don’t like or even hate each other, and it will eventually cause them to divorce with a paper when they first thought they can escape from experiencing signing it. Sleeping in different bedrooms by no means can decrease the divorce rate as many mistakenly think but increase, for this breed of couples will eventually find such an attitude towards marriage is ridiculous and it is too harsh and painful for them to stand it in a long run.
As married couples, sleeping with each other can have a very special feeling in flesh contact and such a feeling will magically accumulate into an asset in their marriage. Never try to lightly give up sleeping with your spouse lest you should suffer from a pang of regret. Sleeping separately is the most hurtful signal you send him or her with nothing you can properly justify yourself. The basic element of a married couple is intimacy or such a couple will only exist in form but not in substance, and only sleeping in the same bed can testify to such a couple’s intimacy in their marriage. Establishing a good and harmonious relationship in-between is a crucial criterion for a couple to sleep in the same bed. It is a bona fide way of decreasing the divorce rate.

Judy Cheng

Hello friends, I am from Hong Kong, living there and having decent education there. I am a mother of two sons and I work as a veteran counselor at a fully fledgling marital introduction company. I like to share with people some tougher experiences in the area of human relationships, marriage in particular. I find human nature is a mixed blessing. While we are bestowed upon enjoying the advantages of it, we can also flee the disadvantages of it. How? I will tell you in my books and blogs.
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